Blog – ‘Slap in the face’ moments

‘Slap in the face’ moments – I’m sure most of you who visit this website would understand what I’m talking about.  The first ’slap in the face’ moment is usually when you receive a diagnosis for your child.  Your whole world is turned upside down, and you go through a sort of grieving process, where the life you had hoped for for your child is suddenly just a dream, and the reality of what life will be like for your child (and the rest of your family too), ’slaps you in the face’.

This subject came up for me the other day when I was talking to a friend of mine who has a child with Angelmans Syndrome. She was having one of those ’slap in the face’ moments with her beautiful daughter.

When you are pregnant and asked about the baby, you always tend to say to people the old cliche “Don’t care about anything but  baby being healthy’. You have visions of your baby doing all those things that babies should, like crawling and walking and goo-ing and gaa-ing. You imagine their first words, the first time they go to a birthday party, starting school, playing sport, having sleepovers, learning to drive, getting married, and having babies of their own one day. Then all of a sudden, with one diagnosis, that ‘normal’ life that you’d hoped for them seems to disappear in front of your eyes.

After a while, that feeling may fade a bit, as you get on with life. But every now and then you’ll have one of those moments, a ’slap in the face’ moment, where all those feelings come flooding back. It may be as simple as seeing another child hug their parent (that always does it for me), clapping their hands or taking a step, and the realisation that your child may never do those things hits you again like a ton of bricks. And while I try not to dwell on those things that my kids may never do, and try to focus on all they can do and have achieved so far, I still have those ’slap in the face’ moments.

Ever feel like that?  Don’t worry, you’re not alone. So, if you’re having one of those days, or one of those moments, just know that there are lots of other people going through the same thing.  I find that going to a support group really helps, to talk to and meet other people who are dealing with, and going through the same things that I am. For anyone who doesn’t go to a local support group, it’s a good thing to consider. Feeling supported and understood really can help when you’re having those bad moments.

Hoping everyone has a ’slap in the face’ free day today!!!

Fiona :)

Comments

4 Responses to “Blog – ‘Slap in the face’ moments”
  1. Allison says:

    Fiona,

    What an inspiration you are! Congratulations on the start-up of what looks like a wonderful new business. I am looking forward to watching it grow over the next few months and years and will certainly be sending some mums and dads I know with special needs kids over here to you.

  2. Fiona says:

    Thank you so much Allison! I have been quite overwhelmed at what a wonderful response I have had this week. I am very excited about Special Needs 4 Special Needs, and I have a lot of ideas, and a lot of items I am trying to source to have available here. I know it will all take time, but I am a determined woman, and eventually I will get there. Thank you so much for your support!
    Kind regards,
    Fiona

  3. Hey Fiona,
    Love the blog. It rings very true. Good wishes with the business and helping those in need. You’re a good person.x

  4. Fiona says:

    Thanks Julie! I’m just hoping that this website will make it easier for parents and carers to access the products that might be able to help their kids – thanks for your support! The hardest thing I’m finding at the moment is actually sourcing these products that I want to supply – but I will get there.

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